My advice is for you to allow him to find his own solution. It will undoubtedly appear quite imperfect to you, but then no one's solution is perfect. It sounds as if he prioritizes hard partying over many things like a home, food, the trust of faily and friends. He capable of this is of course, when he can convince other people to be responsible for the essentials for survival. When someone gets burned out and refuses to ENABLE him to use all of his and some of their resources to continue hard partying, it is his right to choose one of the following: Manipulate his present enabler more effectively. If that fails find another with the same vulnerability and start anew. If no luck there, Steal or hustle to get enough money for the next hit of whatever it it is. Or change his cost of living so tthat he can survive and party on his SS check. Until such time as all resources are tapped out and he has no more enablers, no charms left to create new ones and he realizes how his priorirties are incompatible with life friends happiness love and family. At such a time HIS NEW PRIORITY (NOT YOUR PRIORITY) becomes to get well and do what is needed to survive by realizing that partying is incapatible with surviving.

The tough part about being the friend of such a fella is that giving into the temptation to bail him out and fix his problems FOR HIM usually results in being kicked in the teeth by him at some point in response. Your pupose on this planet is specifically NOT to be abused in this way to prevent him from perishing. Within a 300 mile radius of where you are right this moment there are hundreds if not thousands of addicts who are also unentitled to your sacrifice. In other words No one, especially your friend is entitled to treat you like shit, use you, then apologize only to do it again because to not do so means "turning on a friend." That's manpulive Bullship not friendship.

Addiction is a damn dangerous disease and frequently fatal. By now You have guessed that I have been through this. I learned one thing from it. The more I tried to help the more I contributed to the problem by helping to perpetuate it. At some point my "help" prevented the other fella from finding a workable sustainable solution. For that I had to ask forgiveness from him and from my own heart. It had to be his priority to find a discipline of thought hygiene that keeps him focussed in the present and practice it daily through much of the waking period. Sobriety is much much more than absence of intoxicants. It is mindful awareness of living and experiencing the joys and sorrows that is present every moment . This also means not living the shame, guilt, suffering of the past or worrying about the future or other peoples' lives and problems.

When he genuinely asks for help, direct him to resources like AA or NA and something like Buddhist meditation or an equivalent discipline of mindful awareness. If he is not receptive to this type of help,anything else you give him will cause more harm.

Good luck and lots of compassion,

Ash